We as human beings risk every day being our last. It’s not to say that we should dwell on death, but rather we should dwell on life.
Too often I see or hear people talk about how they’d like to say something to someone else but they don’t want to upset the other person. They sometimes find themselves imprisoned by the other person and can’t bring themselves to say “Enough!” Others don’t use common social graces like “please” and “thank you” for even simplest of things. Still others bite their tongues as the people around them may be rude, insensitive, or even bullies.
The saddest part of holding inside all those things you want to say is how it somehow affects the most important things we say to the people in our lives in a lifetime.
The most important thing we say to one another is “I Love You.” One of the other things we use our voices for is to be grateful and express our gratitude and appreciation of one another. We also raise our voices to praise and encourage one another.
Holding it all in versus letting it all flow out naturally takes a lot of work. Holding it in can even cause illnesses, stress, insomnia, and depression.
What is it you need to tell someone in your life? Is someone putting you down? Is someone doing something that is not supportive for you? Perhaps someone in your life doesn’t cultivate the positive in his or her world—and it brings you down when you’re around him or her. Perhaps it’s time for you to say, “Enough!”
There is a great song in the musical RENT that simply says, “I should tell you, I should tell you….” It follows the flow of one of the characters who wrestles with telling the woman in his life that he has always loved her. He says another time, another place…but he wants to tell her.
My grandfather was a wonderful man. When he died, we learned at his funeral that he would tell my grandmother every day that he loved her. He would whisper it to her as they walked on their way. He would tell her in the morning. He would tell her at night. Every day of their 60+ years of marriage, he would tell her he loved her.
What magical words do you have to share with someone in your life? Is there someone you’d like to say thank you to? Is there someone you’d like to appreciate or acknowledge for something they did for you? Perhaps there is something you’d like to request—and saying “please” would make it that much more inviting for someone to give you what you have asked for.
I’m a big fan of wishes. I wish often and it brings me joy. As I am completing my wish, I always say please and thank you. Not only is it a social grace, it also shares my respect for whomever I’m making my request to—even to God—and it shows my gratitude for them, whether my wish is granted or not.
Oftentimes, it is those who offer respect, appreciation, and gratitude that seem to get what they want. It is often those who don’t share these qualities and who don’t offer them who can’t seem to understand why they are not getting what they want.
Today is a great day to start telling the people in your world what you’re feeling, thinking, and what you’re grateful for.
Simply use the phrase “I should tell you…” or you can also say “What I feel like saying is….” Then you can fill in the rest of the sentence with what you’d like to say.
Most important, remember to tell those you love in your life how happy they make you and how grateful you are that they are here with you today. Tell them you love them—out loud…and with a smile. You never know how long anyone will be here on this earth with you.
Isn’t it time for you to tell someone…”I should tell you…”?
You have the right to remain fabulous!